Natural Miscarriage Stories: Sam's Trust
Note from the Creator of LoveNaturalBirth on Natural Miscarriage Stories: Sam shares her story of a natural miscarriage at 11 weeks, though an ultrasound showed that the baby stopped growing at 9 weeks. What is amazing to me is how her natural miscarriage was different than my
natural miscarriage story...
it just goes to show how amazing and different all our bodies are. If you are going through your own miscarriage, know there are many faces to "normal". What Sam shows us again, is that it's okay to trust our bodies...they are amazing, even in miscarriage.
Sam's Miscarriage Story Shared:
My name is Sam and I am 37 years old. My husband and I had pretty much decided that we wouldn't be having children, but we also weren't completely opposed to it, and were not using much in the way of birth control. I had mixed feelings when I found out that I was pregnant right before Christmas, but within a few weeks I became very excited, as did my husband.
My sister had her children at home, and I wanted to have that experience as well, so I found a wonderful midwife. I was trying to do everything naturally. At my first appointment at ten weeks, she couldn't find a heartbeat, which was disappointing but didn't seem too unusual. Right after that, my nausea seemed to subside. I no longer felt pregnant, but I thought that I was just lucky to have so few symptoms.
At 11 weeks, 2 days, I had some spotting after intercourse and didn't think much of it. However, it didn't stop. I continued to spot a little, just dark brown when I wiped, but I was concerned and I decided to go to the doctor the next day. I woke in the morning and the spotting had turned red and I had light cramping. While my husband and I sat and watched the ultrasound, expecting to see a tiny baby, the doctor told us that my uterus was the size of a 9 week pregnancy and he could see a placenta but no fetus. When this was confirmed, I met with a miscarriage specialist who told me that only 10% of her patients choose natural miscarriage. I was one of them.
I had heavy cramping off and on for two days and passed a lot of tissue, including two large pieces of what I thought were the placenta. Everything seemed to subside and I was relieved. After two days of very light bleeding, I had the worst cramps of my life! I was doubled over, crying ~ it was horrible. It was like labor pains but with no break in between, just constant pressure. The cramping got worse and worse for about two hours until I felt as though I had to use the bathroom. There was a whoosh of bright red blood that flowed out of me. I was shocked but relieved. It seemed that my cervix had opened and my body was flushing itself clean. The cramps subsided but every time I went to the bathroom I had a huge gush of blood. This continued for a full day until I started to get nervous. I wasn't sure if I was hemoraging, and nothing online could give me any idea how much was too much. I probably shed a quarter cup of blood each time I went to the bathroom for thefirst few times, and then about two to three tablespoons after that, but never really soaked a pad, only bleeding when I went to the bathroom and relaxed my pelvic floor.
After two days, I was getting quite scared and so was my husband, when I finally pushed out the placenta. It was about the size of tennis ball and had a whitish sac attached. The bleeding decreased immediately and is now just a few spots when I wipe. My husband and I are both simply amazed at the body's ability to do what it needs to take care of itself. While this process was painful, and scary, I feel as though going through it has given me a new appreciation for myself and my body. I am anxious to get pregnant again and hope that we have a better outcome next time. If you are reading this, you are probably going through your own experience. I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you are not alone and that it does get better.
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